[cs_content][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]21, May 2016

Not sure how many of you guys out there are married or have significant others, but chances are, if you are reading this you have kids. If you have kids, chances are there was a special person/significant other at one point that took part in blessing you with your kid/s. I, personally, am married. Have been for about 5 years now. Talk about a rollercoaster of a ride. Seriously, I still to this day am amazed that she said yes.

I was 24, had a crappy job at a camp on the weekends, and was still struggling to get my AA from a rinky-dink little community college in a desert. I had no plans for a career outside of maybe doing concept art for a video game company someday. On top of that, I botched the fricken proposal. No joke. I called her dad the morning of at about 6am, (he’s an early riser, so he was already up), and asked if I could have his blessing to marry his daughter.

Father-in-law: “Hello?”
Me: “Hey Terry, I was wondering… could I get your blessing to marry Janelle?”
FL: “Uh… let me think it over, yeah?”
Me: “Sure… uh… could you kinda think quickly? I’m sorta sitting at the base of your driveway…”
FL: “Oh! okay… Give me ten minutes and I’ll come down and talk with you.”

Ten minutes later he showed up and took me to breakfast. (he had to pay because I couldn’t even afford that. I had spent my money on a ring and the gas money to get down to their house. We chatted for about an hour before he finally said yes.[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_line style=”border-top-width: 1px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://dadsofdestiny.net/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/DoodleAndPancakes.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=””][x_line style=”border-top-width: 1px;”][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]So back to their house we went. When we got there my soon-to-be fiancee came out to meet me at my car. I knelt and pretended to dig some thing out from behind my seat, then turning on my knee with the ring outstretched…. backwards. The fricken thing was facing me!

Me: “Will you marry me?”
Her: “Of course!”
Me: “Uh.. Are you sure?”
Her: “Uh, yeah, pretty sure.”

Most nerve wracking moment of my life. Also one of the shortest. and in that one moment I was bonded to my best friend. The years following have had their shares of ups and downs. I’ve loved her deeply, hated her, laughed both with her and at her, and I’ve come to realize that I could not function without her. [/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_blockquote cite=”” type=”left”]”Remember that you are never alone in your struggles and victories.”[/x_blockquote][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 0px 0px 45px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]I’m not saying that you need to be married to have that, but a person that you can trust like that is a definite need. We surround ourselves with folks that reflect us, that either personify the things that we lack, or the things that we need but don’t have within ourselves. Sometimes that comes in the form of a spouse, a girlfriend, a lover, or even just a really close friend. My point is that we each need those people in our lives. Some of you have found that here in the Dads of Destiny, which was the entire goal. Remember that you are never alone in your struggles and victories.

I rely on my wife and on the brothers I’ve made here in the DoD. Maybe you guys have some good stories of meeting your wives/gf’s/brothers in arms. When things get rough, remember those moments. The whole reason I was thinking of this story this week was because I had a pretty bad fight with my wife. It made me think of when we met, when we got engaged, all of our history, longingly. Which in turn reminded me why we work, why I can’t do this without her in my life. So remember those good times when the times are ugly. Appreciate those people, love on them and care for them, especially when you get angry at them. You are not alone. Nor should you be.[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][/cs_content]

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KaiCiunus

Former Dadmin at Dads of Destiny
My name is Chris. I am a 28 year old father of two, with a beautiful wife and almost no clue what I want to be when I grow up. I am a an unarmed security guard for various construction sites, involved in marketing and outside sales for a consulting company, and a logistics specialist for a production audio company. And those are just the jobs I have outside of my home life.
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